Hey beautiful! Are you also one of us? Did your marriage landed you up here in the United States recently, Or is that on the cards very soon for you? Is that a YES? Okayyy, then read on!! This post is for you. 🙂
I want to share my experience and thoughts with you on how I felt when I got married and ended up here. First of all, of course, I was very excited to begin a new journey of my life in a country of dreams. But, at the same time, I was a bit nervous to be a part of altogether a new culture. Frankly, I was so hesitant at the beginning that I even avoided interacting with people. I don’t know why I did that, but it makes me laugh when I think about those days. 🙂
Landing here the very first day in the month of June, and out of my expectations, it was so so chilly (for me). So, this was the first lesson for me that I’ve promised myself never to forget. Whenever I travel, I always carry a jacket with me even if it’s summers (you never know with the winds here especially when you’re not used to it, facing it for the first time is actually really freezing). So, if you’re planning to land here soon, do make sure to carry something warm with you. 🙂 Though with time, you will get used to it and you probably won’t need it. But, just a word of caution for you.
So, it was my second day here, and I developed a deep love for Taco Bell’s potato chalupa. If you’re one of those vegetarians, then go for this, you’re going to love it. We were not done with our grocery shopping yet, so my husband got me to taste this. Though I am a non-vegetarian, at that point I wanted to try something vegetarian. Again a word of caution for you, if you’re a strict vegetarian then please make sure to always specify “NO MEAT” while ordering anything. I had a disastrous experience once, while I ordered something vegetarian, but by default, that meal had a non-vegetarian item.
Days passed and I got busy setting up my new apartment and setting up means from scratch. A-Z you are the lead here. No, you can’t afford to hire someone to help you with anything like setting up or cleaning up. Maybe you can, but it’s way too costly. So yes, that’s a harsh truth you have to know before you decide to settle down here. 🙂 You are the care taker in every aspect. This gets even more prominent when you buy your own house. But, if you are in a rented apartment, you get some of the facilities done by your community. You have to worry less about this case. But, still cooking to cleaning is up to you girl. 🙂 So, how did I manage, or how do I feel about it? Truthfully, initial few months I would give up every single day, then gather strength the next day to do all the cleaning (I loved cooking part though, but not the cleaning after that). 🙂 Believe me, there’s no shortcut to this, it takes time to get into the habit and then it doesn’t feel like a burden anymore. Thanks to the dishwasher part (I so much bless the person who invented it every single day!), 🙂 I simply put all the kitchenware in the dishwasher at night and sleep peacefully. It’s just sometimes, that you have to get your hands on manually for those big utensils, but for most of the part dishwasher is the key here. I did the mistake of not using it much in the starting, but now I use it regularly.
What was next? Over a period of time, I developed an addiction to Junk food. You’ll get abundant options here to satisfy your taste buds. Though, we’ve been in the habit of having Junk food earlier too but what I realized, back in India when you don’t have control over things you tend to snack on junk food less frequently. But here, you’re going to be in charge of everything in the family (the setting up menu part), and when you don’t want to cook? (which has a very high probability in the starting few days at least), you end up going for easy options of course where you don’t have to do anything. I would say, DO THIS- You should definitely enjoy this for some time, but my suggestion is that DO NOT BRING IT INTO ROUTINE, or else it can lock you up from where it would be too difficult to return. I realized it soon enough and started cooking at home regularly. However, make sure to try different cuisines before putting this limitation. 🙂 It’s amazing to get a taste of different cultures. Moreover, you won’t miss India here in terms of food. You will have thousands of options to choose from. So, when you don’t want to cook, but you want some homely food, go to some regular Indian restaurant. 🙂
This is not it. I have a lot more to share with you. But, for now, these are just a few of the things that I thought would be helpful for you to know in the first place. So, do come back as more is coming up soon.